My thinking is forming what I achieve and as much as I want to blame others I cannot deny this.
I am noticing that when my thoughts are in line with the course material that we are studying I can achieve so much more than when my thoughts are wandering away from me. This has led me to ask the question – Why would I let my thoughts wander away from my chosen path?
It would be easy to say that it is the fault of others and they must be the problem. I think that would have been my old response. I can now see that if I don’t feel that I’m achieving it must be me. By taking 100% ownership of the problem I can feel that the solution is 100% within me. Knowing that if I created the problem I can solve it seems small but this has a massive effect on everything, what if I could help other people realise that they have the power if they would take responsibility for the bad then they could create the good they desire.
I have given a lot of quiet thought to this and adjusted my Plan of Action. The original served me well but it feels dated and life/ business have moved on. I’m not sure why I left the old plan in place when reading it was not getting me up and excited. The new PoA is going to be the start then my Definite Major Purpose is next in the firing line, it needs more energy because as we all know if we charge a desire with a strong feeling we will move a mountain to achieve it. Simple really but I guess in the past I would have just let it drift and then give up leaving me with a habit which was mediocre at best.
Doing this brings me to the realisation that I have this now. Knowing the formula for success has enabled me to not only spot the problems but fix them too. This will happen again and again throughout my life and I have it, I have the knowledge and with it the power to be self directed. Is this the new reality we were promised? Will my life be lived with purpose and on purpose? I know it will be as that is what I want and I truly believe I can achieve it so it a done deal I just need to do the work before I claim it.
Is it possible to become 30% more productive with a little extra effort?
This is the possible outcome from a presentation done by Shawn Achor and if you click the link you can see what he says for yourself.
His talk is great fun to watch and I have seen it many times before but only recently experienced what he says for myself. Near the end he talks about 5 things that we can all do you raise our happiness and in turn our productivity.
- Write down 3 things each day that we are grateful for.
- Journal a positive experience from the last 24 hours each day.
- Random acts of kindness.
The power is in doing these consistently for at least 21 days so that they become habit and the results can then become part of you.
The science is there and the 5 steps can be part of our daily routine if we wish to feel the change so why did I not embrace this back when I first heard it? I believe that my conscious mind did not take this on board as I was living a different plan and following a different path. Now things have changed for me and instead of seeing change in others and thinking that I can never change I now know that change in others is proof that I can change and in doing so help as many people along the way as I can.
Why do we need to become happy?
Have you ever had a major goal which you have achieved? It may be a new job, new car, promotion, marriage, new home, etc. During the process of achieving this goal we believed it would change our lives and we could then be happy. Now after the goal has been achieved did it really change your happiness in the long term or have you now moved the goal?
We must give ourselves permission to be happy now and enjoy the journey, if we are not enjoying the process then maybe we are on the wrong journey. We have so much riding on this as it is our life, its not a dress rehearsal and it wont last forever. Waiting for a certain thing before we are happy is a perilous game and the science proves that it is slowing our productivity too.
I remember Dr Wayne Dyer saying ‘There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way’ and I now fully understand what he meant.
The Hero’s Journey
We have seen this process played out on the big screens in movies, in our own lives and the lives of others. The reluctant hero gets the call to adventure from within or outside forces and that starts the refusal to take the call. In the movies that refusal is overcome and the journey starts, it would be a short movie if the refusal won!
In our own lives the journey does not always start straight away and sometimes never. For those who do start the journey into the unknown getting as far as the trials or abyss can send them running back to the known. So it would seem that the key is getting past the abyss as nothing will be the same again after we pass this point and the journey will complete in some way.
In my opinion we can break this down into 3 things we need to overcome and if we can solve these then the journey will complete.
- Accepting the call and crossing into the unknown
- Negotiating the Road Of Trials
- Passing the Abyss – Death and Rebirth
1. If we can formulate a plan for getting past the abyss then we will take the call to adventure again and again in the future with confidence and expectation of completing the journey. In fact we will no longer find ourselves reluctant to take the call but instead looking forward to the next journey. So by overcoming 2 and 3 before we start we will have overcome problem 1.
2. The road of trials can be an unwelcoming place if we arrive there alone. Our journey could be weight loss, relationships or maybe business building they all share common threads and will always encounter trials. This is where a plan of action, mentor, desire, etc. will be called upon. Napoleon Hill and many others have given us the tools for this, we just need to use them. Each and everyone of us has the ability to overcome trials as long as we truly believe in the journey we have started and it is in line with our beliefs and authentic selves. Strength in numbers is essential here as a group of like minds are always going to be greater than the sum of their parts.
3. Passing the Abyss will require us to finally let go of our old self and embrace the new. So as before the journey has to be in line with our authentic selves and not a whim or exercise to please others. Death and Rebirth seem a little harsh in this box but in a way we are letting our old self die to make room for the new us. If we cling onto our old self then we can never complete the journey. The popular weight loss journey could be used as an example here. If we still see ourselves as an overweight person who has lost a few pounds then we will inevitably regain the weight. If we truly become a different weight in our head and accept the new reality as our future we will instinctively keep up the exercise and make healthy choices with food. Being continually on a diet is not completing the journey, it is keeping someone else in business but you have not returned to the known world much different from how you left it. This can be applied to self help gurus in all areas of life, if they are not helping you formulate the tools to complete the journey then they may be helping themselves more than you.
This is just my opinion and I’m sure you will form yours about the Hero’s Journey. It makes a great plot line for a film or book but I’m more interested in relating it to my life and those with whom I have the pleasure to meet and work with. We can all be a hero if we wish to and that is a fantastic thing!
Nature’s Greatest Miracle
We have been reading in Og Mandino’s Greatest Salesman this month that we are nature’s greatest miracle (Scroll marked IV).
It is true that none that came before us were the same and this is empowering to me. Having spent a large part of my life trying to imitate others I can now accept that I am unique and that is a good thing. I can place my uniqueness on display and be proud of the difference.
I have always felt a need to separate myself from the herd but there has often been something on a subconscious level dragging me back, until now. Life has got a lot simpler now and I can live with my compass leading me towards my bliss, putting a compass around my neck seemed silly at first but I would be lost without it. Having a purpose in life which is not in line with the average man is ok for me as I’m proud of the difference.
We are surrounded by people attracting various things into their lives and its easy to get caught up in their race. It may be your boss, friend, relative or co-worker and they are attracting results through their thoughts and actions. You may be part of their plan to make themselves feel better or get on but is it helping you towards your bliss? I believe we can make our own way and follow our compass. If we are heading towards our own bliss then we will enjoy the ride and this will set many positive ripples into the lives of others.
I have a purpose and an opportunity to achieve it. As long as I remain true to me then I am happy with the journey. With each victory the next struggle becomes less difficult.
I am nature’s greatest miracle.
Whatever we think about grows. What we forget atrophies.
This week has been very interesting as we have been noticing ‘Kindness’ as a group and feeling the law of growth in this area together. We have been sharing our experiences with each other in the forum and as a result the impact on each of us has been exponential. The power of a mastermind group was written about by Napoleon Hill and feeling it first hand is a powerful experience.
Noticing kindness in others has been revealing as it is not only their kindness to me but also to each other that has been apparent. A lot of it would have bypassed my consciousness if it was not for this weeks exercise. I am surrounded by kind people doing kind things and that is a great thing. Kind acts towards me are naturally good for me and I have been sure to be gracious. I believe that I have noticed many more than I would have otherwise and the effect on my subconscious mind can only be for the better as a result and we all know what a healthy happy subconscious mind can achieve.
My acts of kindness have been a little harder as we were asked as a group to do two random acts of kindness each day. By a random act we mean doing something without being caught. I have tidied up in shops, given to charity boxes and slowed my car in traffic to create a gap ahead for other drivers that I have seen. These seem small but it has revealed that I have room for improvement in this. I believe that I am a kind person but to give this law of growth some fuel I will do more before the week end on Sunday. Comments in the box below will be kindly received and acted on if your creativity can help me with more random acts.
So whatever we think about grows apparently, well I can confirm this to be the case. My study may not be far reaching and stand the test of some peoples scepticism but in my mind it works. This week has been a kind week and I look forward to next week when we as a group will be applying the law of growth to topics of our own choice. My choice is ‘Decisiveness’ for next week so if we run into each other do me a favour and be decisive so I can notice it and watch it grow through the week.
Does this stuff work? Will it work for me?
I guess these were the questions that I asked myself repeatedly in the early days. I had read many books before but this course promised to be different, we were to be self directed and guided into finding the answers for ourselves. Then as if to make it more challenging we would be reading two books which both takes months to complete as they are exercises to be completed daily and repeated until the books are finished.
Well after 15 weeks I can confirm that this is working. I feel different, I react to situations differently and most importantly I am living with a purpose and enjoying the journey. It is no miracle it is simply the result of gaining and understanding of what I used to think about and understanding that I can change the bits that don’t serve me. This is an ongoing process as I don’t believe we will ever stop growing until the day life ends.
Life is a whole lot better for me and my greatest displeasure now is seeing others that are in need of help. Many of them don’t know that they are slowly self destructing with negative opinions and actions. I know that I will be able to help some but will I be able to do enough? I will continue my journey and know that I will have opportunities to share what I have learnt. As they say on aeroplanes ‘fix your own oxygen mask first, then help others’.
A short comparison that has helped me recently is to think of the mind as being like a field of fertile soil. If you plant crops in the field then they will invariably grow, if you plant deadly nightshade in the soil it will invariably grow. They soil is fertile and doesn’t mind what you plant, it will simply return to you what you plant. By planting positive thoughts that are in line with your dharma in the mind they will grow. The mind does not mind what you plant it will simply return what you plant. Our actions are a manifestation of our thoughts so if we are propagating a positive mind then how can it not take us towards our dharma?
Do I Need A New Year Resolution?
What a difference a year makes, this has been said by me many times before but this year I feel it so much more.
Thanks to this course I don’t need to make a new years resolution as I have a Definite Major Purpose which is guiding me in a direction of my choosing every minute of every day. As it is my DMP and worded to encompass my needs spiritually, physically and mentally it is very personal to me. I feel it to my core and I’m loving the journey. I believe any smart goal we set and charge with emotion we can accomplish.
I’m not a fool so I have a Plan Of Action to take me to the goal and I can change the plan if needed to keep me on track. Having a plan to achieve your DMP is essential as we will only get back what we give so we must be putting the work in to stand any hope. I don’t need to know every step at this time as ideas and opportunities are still to come to me along the way but doing something is essential.
I have a Positive Mental Attitude as that is a well written about requirement to achieve and sustain any success in life. A PMA also enables you to be a giving person and enjoy the ride, sounds like my type of plan as enjoying what we have is a good way to live. The Seven Day Mental Diet by Emmet Fox is my guide for this (Get your copy from my link on this site). This also ensures that I’m receptive to the new ideas when they show up, it would be a shame to miss out on a life changing moment because is was having a pity party about something unnecessary like a relatives attitude or heavy traffic.
I also have a Master Mind Alliance as this is essential to keep yourself honest. It’s easy to slack off when it’s just you and your plan but bring someone else into the equation and you feel a responsibility to carry on. If I don’t do the work then I’m not just letting my future self down but also someone else who is trying to better themselves too. My MMA is a good man with regular life problems and a tough job. Between us we will achieve so much as combined we are stronger than the sum of our parts for the reasons above. Peter I’m truly grateful for all that you do to push me on!
DMP + POA + PMA + MMA = Success. An equation that has stood the test of time as it has been written about and used by successful people since the early 1930’s either knowingly or not. Just read their autobiography’s if you need proof.
I hope this explains why I will not be setting a New Years Resolution this year like the majority. They often get forgotten about in early January anyway and setting a goal which you soon drop is a very bad habit to form. If you set a goal then stake your life on it, setting goals which you achieve is a good habit to form and one which can potentially change a life.
This is my blog from two years ago. I have re posted it as it was such a great turning point for me. To be able to use the Law of Substitution and control my thoughts was a big success for me. This was a very real problem for me and by controlling my subconscious and my thinking I was able to make a big change in my life. The course suddenly became very real for me!
Having a short holiday over Christmas has given me a chance to choose an emotion. I have always had a fear of flying until now. It’s never been a big problem as I have taken many flights over my adult life but each time I have believed that I am afraid of flying and got myself worked up about it. It has caused me to be irritable and a pain to be around thus getting a family holiday off to a poor start and give it a poor finish too.
This holiday was always going to be different as my wife and I have made many changes to ourselves and the way we think. I decided a few weeks ago that I was no longer afraid of flying but the test came on Christmas Day when we travelled to the airport. We had a great journey and was met by a very pleasant fellow who took our keys to park the car for us. I managed to strike up a conversation with him and thank him for working on Christmas Day. We then walked into the terminal and had a very pleasant time, I even managed to buy a couple of things and enjoy shopping with my wife and son.
The take off went fine and I even let my son sit by the window for landing at our destination. This got our holiday off to a fantastic start and I am so pleased that I did this. It has proved to me that we do choose our emotions and I have faith in myself to make many more changes. More importantly I can use this experience to help others choose their emotions too as no one should suffer needlessly fearing things for no good reason.
I choose to not fear flying along with more significant choices such as happiness, health, strength and many more. We all have this power it is not for the chosen few. The truth is that we get so hung up with running with the crowd that we forget to look where we are going. I simply choose to be a success and more importantly enjoy the journey. If we genuinely believe in ourselves then we have the power to design a life.
If you told me 3 months ago I would be using affirmations I would not have believed you. Now if you tell me that in 12 months time I will have stopped using affirmations I will not believe you.
Mark very cleverly started us off weeks ago with a simple ‘Do it now’ affirmation then progressed to ‘I can be what I will to be’. These we have been repeating daily and finding them creeping into our daily routines. Often when a negative situation is developing they are useful as the Law of Substitution keeps us sane and on track. It is impossible to indulge in self pity when you are repeating ‘I can be what I will to be’ in your head, who would ever will to be pitiful or sad?
A 50 Minute Affirmation Marathon
This week Mark hit us with a 50 minute affirmation marathon in front of a mirror. No warnings he just came out with it on a live webinar used the ‘Do it now’ affirmation a couple of times and said see you in 50 minutes. Back in September I would have said he was nuts but now understanding the 7 laws of the mind it seemed a good idea so I did it. I trust the teaching, the guides and the course as they have changed my life forever with this. Maybe you think I’m nuts while reading this, I can understand your thinking but trust me this stuff works.
The 50 minute affirmation was a short sentence encompassing our DMP’s (Definite Major Purpose). We prepared this short DMP last week and knew it would form part of the webinar. It’s great having a DMP but for it to work you need to feel it to your core and live in it as often as you can by attaching thoughts and feelings to it. Meditations, reading it and affirming it are all helping this to work. Repeating this sentence for 50 minutes was a challenge to start but so worth the effort. It started feeling odd then progressed to being more fun. This allowed me to change the tone and energy of it a few times and this felt quite emotional at times as my DMP is going to be a fantastic life for my family and I to live in.
Thank you Mark and the MKMMA team for guiding us without influencing. The self discovery is fantastic and giving this whole course meaning. It’s no surprise that many successful people from decades ago rate this book so highly, it truly has the power to change a life for the better.
The Law Of Attraction
This law has been discussed for decades and has always faced scepticism along with acceptance. I myself was a sceptic and believed I knew the facts with my schooling and interests being in science. I was always of the belief that thoughts can have very little influence over anything outside our heads. You don’t have to look too far to find someone who is willing to film themselves mocking this law by proving that thought cannot manifest an object. I now look back at that scepticism and realise that it was the easy answer and meant that I could put it to one side and move on.
How did this work out for me? Well lets just say that I’m glad I have an open mind otherwise I would still be using my thoughts to justify my beliefs and living the safe controlled life following the crowd towards mediocrity.
Being part of the MKMMA course has allowed me to understand the ‘Law Of Attraction’ without having to give up on my scientific mind wanting to explore every detail.
Its not magic or a kind of voodoo whereby we can think of a thing and it will appear. I wish it was as I like a quick fix as much as anyone else. Its much like a network marketing business where you first have to suspend your current belief to open up the possibility that you don’t yet have all the answers. Once you do this you can view the components for what they are rather than comparing them to your current belief.
I have looked at the theories and read the books, I have even seen a film on the idea. A lot of information has allowed me to gain an understanding that I can live with for now in the hope that I can gain more with time. I truly believe that what we think about can manifest itself in our lives and I have the experiences to back it up. A lot of the evidence can be disregarded by anyone wishing to be a sceptic with phrases such as ‘confirmation bias’ or ‘self selecting of positive reports’. This is fine as we are all free to think as we wish and I’m sure anyone in these camps is living a life finding scepticism, superiority and maybe even hatred wherever they go and in their own way proving the law of attraction working perfectly.
I’m finding that with a more directed positive attitude I can find good things in my life with ease and while its true they may have been there anyway by experiencing them I’m living a richer more fulfilled life than otherwise. By expecting better outcomes they will always appear as the law works perfectly either way so why choose the negative?
Any event in life is perceived by us in a certain way and if somebody else experiences the same event they may well have a different perception of that same event. Take two people watching the same football match almost every hard tackle will have one set of fans applauding and the other saying foul play.
A positive person (attracting success) losing a business opportunity will see room for growth, new opportunities or a change of direction while a predominantly negative person (attracting failure) will be saying this always happens to me or finding excuses or blame. Which person will do the best in time, which would you rather be, which will find a way to be successful? It’s not voodoo it’s obvious and it’s a choice we all have. We have a thought process ingrained in us already which we are living our lives by so it’s happening anyway we can just choose to do it differently, if we want to.
My thoughts on the law are only the tip of the iceberg. There is so much more to it and I’m enjoying the process of finding and understanding much more about why I do what I do as this is helping shape a different future.