Do we really have a freedom to choose?
I have found that in most areas we do have this freedom and utilising it can be a fantastic feeling. I’m not suggesting that we all have 100% freedom over all of our choices but we can go a lot further than we may initially believe.
Stephen Covey writes fantastically about this topic and it fits perfectly with what we learn on the Master Keys course.
There is a gap between the stimulus and response and that is where we have our freedom to choose. We will make most of these choices without much conscious thought but at some stage we will have programmed our subconscious to make those choices.
If we can take a step back and become the observer of ourselves then it becomes apparent and the frightening reality is that it’s all us, no where to hide. The blame game becomes a thing of the past which for some can be enlightening but for those not ready to take control can be the worst thing ever.
Imagine that you have a negative disposition, I should know as I have worked through this one. You get a stimulus in the form of a piece of advice from someone and your response is of suspicion or you find yourself thinking of ways to discredit the person or their advice. Why would I choose that response? I believed it was because I had been let down too many times before or that I knew everything on the subject or that no one gives advice impartially. I had a negative sound track in my mind and every response had to be filtered through it. I believed it was out of my hands but then I find that I have freedom to choose differently and my whole reality moves. If I can find my freedom to choose differently then I can apply the same logic to my responses to other stimuli and suddenly find my whole reality shifting in a direction of my choosing.
I challenge everyone reading this far to read the follow quote from R.D Laing, a Scottish Psychiatrist, not just once but twice with a few moments between reading to ponder what this can do for us.
The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change; until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.