This week we have been set a challenge, it’s massive. My old self is resisting this one but it must surely be the way forward, I mean it would not have been suggested if it was not going to have a big payoff.
The challenge is to sit or at least be quiet and with only oneself for a length of time. To get the maximum benefit from this 3 or 4 days have been suggested. Thankfully for us beginners a day would be a good start with a couple of half days to complement it.
I can think of so many reasons why I can’t do this. I have a family, job and a business to consider. How would I manage to be at one with myself for a whole day? My phone would be full of texts, emails and missed calls and I would miss interactions with my fantastic wife and son. It would be a selfish act and require support from those I love.
The payoff would be insight into me and where I am heading, I would be gaining a connection with my spiritual nature and an understanding of whether I need to make adjustments. Apparently once I have truly quietened my mind I will gain so much more than I can comprehend now as I write this.
I know that this level of thinking and understanding is something I desire and I am adapting my DMP in life to reflect that I need the freedom to do this. Not just once either, I know that this can become part of me and reflecting on life both past and present can allow me to live this life fully. I am excited to know that a day will come when I can be with myself for 3 or 4 days and fully experience life as a result. I’m picturing a Hawaiian beach with no interruptions.
As for now, well I need to discuss this with my wife, unless she reads this post before she comes home from work first. I need to accept compromise to begin with and improve in the future. The fact that this is so hard for me to do is the biggest driving force making me want to do this. How can I have designed a life for myself where taking a day out is so hard to do? I am here with all the stuff I have created and after 41 years on this planet I feel trapped by it.
I am blessed with my fantastic family and we have a plan which is coming into fruition in the next couple of years. The plan allows for us to find ourselves and some time freedom. We can see the results lining up but this serves as a reminder that we must be happy today and not sacrifice today with a hope for a better tomorrow. I know I can make this work and enjoy the process too.
What would the person I intend to become do next?
This month I am reading Scroll 5 from Og Mandino’s book the Greatest Salesman. The message is as the title says, live this day as if it’s your last.
Sounds fun at first but I read on into the chapter before spending all my savings and liquidating my investments. It starts with the message to live today not to just let today drift by without much notice. Good advice as each day is a gift not given to everyone and to waste it should be a crime.
Yesterday and tomorrow can be distracting from today. Reliving failures, dwelling on mistakes does not right them. We can learn from mistakes and then move on, they have served their purpose. Tomorrow can be enjoyed tomorrow, I am as guilty as anyone for letting an upcoming event distract me from today. Wouldn’t it be better to get value from today and then do the same tomorrow too? What if today is my last and I spent it thinking of tomorrow or yesterday and let the last page of my life be blank.
We are surrounded by friends, family and people who all matter. We are encouraged in this chapter to notice them now. I am glad to be reminded of this as I have a fantastic wife, son and family along with great friends and businesses which many would envy. I am truly blessed and to get tangled up in things which don’t matter would distract me from what I have and take me away from appreciating these things. I have seen so many people throw away days and weeks over things which really don’t matter in the long run and I have done it myself but no time for regrets lets learn the lesson and think of it no more.
Being happy is a choice and I make it daily to enjoy this day just in case it’s my last.
Is Multitasking a good thing?
The Stanford Report published on the 24th August 2009 is very interesting reading.
The experiment was conducted to find out how multitaskers were performing so that we could all learn from them and benefit from their gift or skills. We live in a time of constant information and as a result can find ourselves trying to accomplish different things whilst taking in information from different sources. Were multitaskers processing information differently and sifting things better than the rest of us? Were they using their brains better to store details?
The results were opposite to those expected when the research was conducted. This was a shock at first but when they drilled down into the causes it became obvious that those who were training themselves to take in multi sources of information at the same time were in fact loosing out and under performing as a result. Multitaskers were finding it difficult to ignore certain irrelevant details and concentrate on what was required of them in the study. Being unable to filter out what is not relevant to your current goal could result in loosing ground to those who can stay focused. ‘They are suckers for irrelevancy’ said communication Professor Clifford Nass, ‘everything distracts them’.
I can learn a good lesson from this myself and apply it to my life. It is easy to have the TV on or emails open when working on something. I remember myself recently planning a presentation with Facebook open and achieving very little as a result in the 20 minutes involved. I would have done far better with 15 minutes of work followed by 5 minutes of recreation rather than combining the two.
With us living in the information age it would be easy to remember this as the barrage of information is only going one way.
I will no longer be kidding myself that I am a great multitasker and I see the results immediately.
My thinking is forming what I achieve and as much as I want to blame others I cannot deny this.
I am noticing that when my thoughts are in line with the course material that we are studying I can achieve so much more than when my thoughts are wandering away from me. This has led me to ask the question – Why would I let my thoughts wander away from my chosen path?
It would be easy to say that it is the fault of others and they must be the problem. I think that would have been my old response. I can now see that if I don’t feel that I’m achieving it must be me. By taking 100% ownership of the problem I can feel that the solution is 100% within me. Knowing that if I created the problem I can solve it seems small but this has a massive effect on everything, what if I could help other people realise that they have the power if they would take responsibility for the bad then they could create the good they desire.
I have given a lot of quiet thought to this and adjusted my Plan of Action. The original served me well but it feels dated and life/ business have moved on. I’m not sure why I left the old plan in place when reading it was not getting me up and excited. The new PoA is going to be the start then my Definite Major Purpose is next in the firing line, it needs more energy because as we all know if we charge a desire with a strong feeling we will move a mountain to achieve it. Simple really but I guess in the past I would have just let it drift and then give up leaving me with a habit which was mediocre at best.
Doing this brings me to the realisation that I have this now. Knowing the formula for success has enabled me to not only spot the problems but fix them too. This will happen again and again throughout my life and I have it, I have the knowledge and with it the power to be self directed. Is this the new reality we were promised? Will my life be lived with purpose and on purpose? I know it will be as that is what I want and I truly believe I can achieve it so it a done deal I just need to do the work before I claim it.
Is it possible to become 30% more productive with a little extra effort?
This is the possible outcome from a presentation done by Shawn Achor and if you click the link you can see what he says for yourself.
His talk is great fun to watch and I have seen it many times before but only recently experienced what he says for myself. Near the end he talks about 5 things that we can all do you raise our happiness and in turn our productivity.
- Write down 3 things each day that we are grateful for.
- Journal a positive experience from the last 24 hours each day.
- Random acts of kindness.
The power is in doing these consistently for at least 21 days so that they become habit and the results can then become part of you.
The science is there and the 5 steps can be part of our daily routine if we wish to feel the change so why did I not embrace this back when I first heard it? I believe that my conscious mind did not take this on board as I was living a different plan and following a different path. Now things have changed for me and instead of seeing change in others and thinking that I can never change I now know that change in others is proof that I can change and in doing so help as many people along the way as I can.
Why do we need to become happy?
Have you ever had a major goal which you have achieved? It may be a new job, new car, promotion, marriage, new home, etc. During the process of achieving this goal we believed it would change our lives and we could then be happy. Now after the goal has been achieved did it really change your happiness in the long term or have you now moved the goal?
We must give ourselves permission to be happy now and enjoy the journey, if we are not enjoying the process then maybe we are on the wrong journey. We have so much riding on this as it is our life, its not a dress rehearsal and it wont last forever. Waiting for a certain thing before we are happy is a perilous game and the science proves that it is slowing our productivity too.
I remember Dr Wayne Dyer saying ‘There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way’ and I now fully understand what he meant.